Asking for Wedding Gifts: Ideas, Registries and polite ways to ask for Cash

Once you reach adulthood, asking for presents might feel uncomfortable, but when it comes to your Wedding Gifts, it’s better for both yourselves and your guests if you choose what you’d really like to receive. If you choose not to specify what sort of wedding gifts you would like, either in setting up a wedding registry, a honeymoon fund or asking for cash, for instance, you will find that many of your guests ask you anyway.

It’s not taboo to be upfront and choose your wedding gifts

You needn’t feel awkward about specifying what you would like for your wedding. Honestly, your guests want to buy something for you both to mark your special day, and in recognition that you will be going to a large expense to celebrate with them. I understand that asking for things is a pretty unnatural concept, but there are polite ways to do so, even if you want to ask for cash for your wedding gift.

The tradition of wedding gifts

Traditionally, the purpose of wedding gifts were to set up the household for the newly married pair (they having never lived together, of course). Until recently, most couples would set up a wedding registry of all the things they need to set up their house. These days, most engaged couples will have already cohabited for a year or more and have most household necessities.

Do I need a wedding registry?

Many couples will be asking if they really need a wedding registry, especially if they’ve lived together already or are marrying later in life. Nowadays, many couples steer away from registries in favour of honeymoon funds or other experiences. There’s no point in having a traditional wedding registry if you don’t need anything, so don’t worry, you have other options.

Wedding Registries for people who don’t need anything

Honeymoon registry

Like the name suggests, you can register for guests to contribute to your honeymoon. Rather than just giving you cash, guests can specify what they’re purchasing for you.

Ideas for your honeymoon registry:

  • a romantic meal
  • a night’s accommodation
  • a scuba-diving trip

Experience registry

Similarly, another ‘registry’ option for wedding gifts is to register for an experience you’ve both wanted to undertake. If you’re not immediately planning a honeymoon, or you’re not going overseas, you might want to register for a particular experience to do together.

Ideas for experiences:

  • cooking or language classes together
  • couples day spa experience
  • tickets to a festival
  • a wine subscription

Can I ask for cash for a wedding gift?

If you’d rather have a lump sum to put toward your first home, some furniture or something else entirely, asking for cash as a wedding gift has become more and more acceptable. Of course, be aware that some people still disagree that it’s okay to ask for cash for a wedding present, and may instead choose to buy you something.

Some couples choose to have a ‘wishing well’ at their wedding, whereas others will provide a bank account or use a website like Joyable.

If you’re having trouble deciding between all the different kinds of wedding gifts, or between different registries, you can certainly register at multiple registries? If you have a wedding website, it’s easy enough to list alternative wedding registries.

Should Wedding Gift information go on your Invitations?

Traditional etiquette would say no, and that this information is to travel by word-of-mouth. Being realistic, I would say yes – otherwise your guests are all going to have to ask you where you are registered, or assume you’re having a wishing well.

How to ask for wedding gifts: Polite wording to use.

Whatever you choose, here are examples of wording politely asking for wedding presents:

Registered list
Please don’t feel as though you must buy us a gift,
we are more than happy just to have you.
However, if you would like to buy
a gift we have a gift list at XYZ.
You may order on-line, by telephone
or in person.
Our gift lift number is: Hutchison and is open
from 12th Jan 2017.

Cash gifts
Your presence is present enough,
but if you would like to give a gift,
cash gifts would be greatly appreciated.

Cash gifts, specific purchase 
As we have been sharing a home for some time
we have decided not to have a traditional gift list.
Instead, if you would like to do so, we ask that you contribute to
our married life together in the form of
monetary contributions for our honeymoon

A cute rhyme by Amanda of Southern Bride

Because at first we lived in sin
we’ve got the sheets and rubbish bin
A holiday is what we need,
a gift towards that would be great indeed

If you have any other ideas, please leave a comment, I’d love to hear how you overcame this issue! Head to the wedding planning page for more advice and plan the rest of yoru wedding with the little white book wedding planner.

P.S. Don’t forget to ask for a copy of I still do to begin your marriage with!

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