If you’ve just picked up your little white book wedding organiser and diary, you’ve probably already begun filling its pages with your plans and musings.
Starting a journal can be so incredibly therapeutic, and this will be of tremendous value throughout your engagement. Planning a wedding can be an exciting, exhilarating, and yet stressful experience. Keeping a wedding journal and diary like the little white book through the wedding planning process can help keep your stress levels down during that time. Of course, it also gives you a written record and special keepsake of how you felt on the months, weeks, and then final days leading up to your wedding. For instance, I was able to record and chronicle the events of my engagement parties, my bachelorette trip to vegas, the stress involved with buying, picking up, and then fitting my wedding dress, and even my small disagreements over wedding plans. Keeping journals provided a great place for me to track everything that happened, recording memories that otherwise would have got lost in the midst of planning the actual wedding.
Why to keep a wedding journal – 3 reasons you may not have thought of!
1. Use the little white book to help you make decisions.
Instead of just keeping a traditional wedding binder or folder to stay organised, the little white book is was created to be hybrid of a wedding organiser and a diary.
Unlike regular wedding planning diaries, which you will be likely to forget about and tuck under the bed or in a drawer for months and months, because the little white book is part of your day to day life (as your daily diary), you’re SO much more likely to actually use it!
Just little things, like reflecting on why you whether like one wedding venue over the other can actually help you make a decision. The process of physically writing things down encourages your brain to truly think about your choices, and bring clarity to your decisions. This will help you stay organised while you’re in the wedding planning process.
2. You (and your fiancé) can keep a journal of the final lead-up
I wish I could’ve convinced Blair to do this, but if your fiancé is open to it, keeping a journal in the lead-up to your wedding day is a really special keepsake for you to have years into your marriage (and see also I still do – a wedding anniversary memory book).
Keep your own engagement diary in the last few weeks to reflect on the time, and what marriage means to you – a wedding journal does is act as a keepsake of memories. From the day you get engaged up to the big day itself, there are many things that you’ll want to remember.
Later, when marriage gets tough (they say ‘marriage takes work’, you can look back and remember all the reasons you said “I do” and the promises you vowed to keep. If possible, make sure you (both) write an entry on the actual wedding day. You can have the groomsmen or bridesmaids transport it between you both if you don’t want to see each other before the ceremony, or fill it out together during your “first look“.
3. Plan for the future
During your engagement, don’t just plan a wedding, but actually take a few minutes to sit down with your fiancé and write about where/how/who you want to be in 5/10 years. Write about where you see yourselves as a married couple – travel, children, careers, relocations, etc. After you discuss your future together, take a moment to write your current thoughts on marriage and your goals, individually and as a collective. Prepare yourself not just for your ideal wedding, but your ideal marriage. “The best is yet to come”.
Other creative ways to use your wedding diary
I’ve been so incredibly inspired by brides sharing their #littlewhitebook pics, that I have to share a few. As you can see, it’s the perfect canvas for scrap-booking, drawings, photos and more. Inspired yet? We are! If you’re interested, read about the development of the little white book, or get one for yourself.